"He who forgives, wins the argument." African Proverb.
Asé. (And so it will be).
My son made his presence known to me while in the womb at 19weeks. Prior to that, he existed inside my body undetected. When I found out i was pregnant at 19weeks I realized that I had about 3 months to plan my LIFE for another child... as a single mama.
3 and a newborn was about to be my new life.
I was shook. and embarrassed.
I had made a personal vow to myself to not have anymore children until i was in a healthy relationship with someone who loved and respected me and my daughter.
But King was coming, whether I liked it or not.
After Marli I was mean, angry, sometimes violent, depressed, and felt like I was stuffed into a corner. I hated the very being that helped me earn one of the most important titles I'll ever have, mama.
I loved him. I hated him. I loved him. I hated him. That emotional rollercoaster was one i rode for years until one day I stopped.
King gave me hope. I felt magical with him, blessed to be the woman he choose to restore my faith back in men. Of course God would give me a son. I was at the peak of hating all men... my daddy included. I felt betrayed. I was pregnant with my son, my piece of peace. Charged with the task of raising a young king to grow up and be something different.
And so it will be.
I stopped the argument. I choose to forgive.
We went about a year with out really communicating. I backed up, released expectations and allowed him to be a dad on his terms...not mine. THAT, was huge.
I was intentional about my healing.
I'm posting this photo as a testament of our journey as co/parents. We have come a long way. in 2018 we can now sit in the same room and laugh at jokes, we can converse about the "special" person in our lives -(Im single, now) and really just be present in the moment for our children. Im grateful for that.
If i've learned nothing else, I've learned that "If you wish to move mountains tomorrow,you must start by lifting stones today" African Proverb.
Im the mama of Marli Amor and Kingston Ase.